Orgasms are very important for women’s sexual health, so here’s a little sex education for you and your partner. Cross your heart and tell us – have you had that perfect sexual encounter with your man till date? You might have done it a jillion times, but have you had such awesome sex, that you were blown away and cried for more? If he knows how to give you that orgasm, you’re – OMG – lucky. But if not – well, get in line.
Men. Sigh. How do we tell them what women want – it’s a bit embarrassing to spell out where he needs to nip, and where he needs to kiss right? Some get it right, but a lot of them have a lot to learn. And unfortunately, due to lack of right sex education and over-dependence on porn, men have it all wrong. So if you can’t tell him upfront, you can share these open secrets with him, and then thank us when you have ‘the best sex of your life’!
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THE EPIC TIP : Make love, not sex
Women don’t appreciate it if you want to get into her pants sooner than a wink. It’s selfish, it’s not making love. Sex is a two-way street, a dialogue. Making love is a far more intimate process and it is not just about penetrating into her.
The to-do tip: Women do take a long time to get ready, for dates and in bed ;). So, go slow! How? We will tell you.
a) Slow and Steady, Win the Pace
First of all, don’t be in a hurry. Don’t think about it all day, don’t excite yourself too much in advance or set the expectations high for yourself. The pressure might build up and when the actual time comes, you won’t be as spontaneous. So start slow, cuddle together for a bit, let the feelings build up. And once you both are charged up, you probably don’t need candles or candy to do the job. Try matching her rhythm and pace, and getting her turned on first. And how do you do that? Coming up next…
b) Kiss And Shake-Up
Your kiss says a lot. It’s the starting point of sex. Make it special. Shake her up with that gentle, warming touch. Nibble at her lips first, don’t be carnivorous. Not all of them like bite marks and sore lips the next day! Then take it as it comes, go with her response. A lot of women don’t like the French style of kissing where you salivate and thrust your tongue into her, so check out her reaction or her reflexes and be conscious of it! After your kiss, make love to her from top to toe – literally. Need help knowing what to do? Read on!
c) Foray into foreplay
Use your natural instincts to make love to her and indulge in a lot of foreplay – enjoy her body, rub your lips and hands to caress her everywhere. After a while, allow her to do things to you as well. Once you have been generous with her, women love to make love back to men as well, instead of him being on the driver’s seat all the time. Trust us, you will enjoyyyy it. That’s called foreplay, my friend, and here are some more tips for that magical foreplay.
d) Seven, Seven, Seven!
Did you know that women have seven erogenous spots? So kiss her gently there (please don’t bite – its painful and annoying to say the least, unless she really likes it.), touch her, massage her in these spots. This will make her feel wanted and loved, which is a definite turn on. For instance, women love it when you slowly turn her back towards you and kiss the sides of her neck. Drooool.
e) The big O
So you are halfway there. (Whoever said sex was not hard work? Good morning, all the porn you watched last night was hogwash.) Look into her eyes, give a half teasing smile, and then go down on her. Try lubricate her by gently giving her oral sex, or try inserting two finger gently into her vagina. That should be a nice start to climax. Turn on your back and let her turn you on. And whenever you are ready, go for the climax. You both will know when the time is right – Enjoy the rhythm, the orgasm, the moaning and the orgasm. And orgasms are, we repeat, important for women’s sexual health. Hang on, you are not done yet…
f) The Afterplay
You thought once you come, you can wash yourself, and leave or snooze off? Yes, it is tiring once you come, but that’s a good time to relax and cuddle more. The afterplay is as important as the foreplay, so play well guys. It’s important that you don’t make her feel like a waste wipe, and that after sex, you leave her alone in bed. Speak with each other, hug, lie around to regain your energy.
We can share a dozen more tips on how to have the best sex with your lady, but for now, this is good sex education. Remember, these tips are a great for women’s sexual health. So have a happy sex life!