By Kadambari Srivastava
When ‘Veere Di Wedding’ hit the screen, it seemed like a harmless flick on friendship. But it got audiences screaming virtually all over at Swara Bhasker’s masturbation scene, which eventually reached orgasm on social media. It stirred controversies and got people sending her hate.
That saga did not end here. Recently, during the election fever, she was trolled by misogynistic morons with demeaning hashtags like #useyourfinerwisely and not like Swara Bhasker.
If a celebrity is subject to so much hatred for merely enacting masturbation (which by the way, is very healthy for women), what would happen if we simply speak about it in real life? Is it so wrong to pleasure oneself, especially when women are already deprived of orgasms when it comes to penetrative sex?
So we decided to give a finger – no, two fingers, to this unnecessary patriarchal atttiude. We are going to not just write this one piece on masturbation, but celebrate it!
MAY GETS HOTTER AS IT IS THE MONTH TO ‘MAYSTURBATE’
In case you did not know, May is the International Masturbation Month, and we at She & You are ready to burst some balls, along with you. Educate, empower, and emerge, sans any shame, because your sexual desires and satisfaction are as important as a man’s, and you need not be ashamed of it. So we are here with the month of Maysturbation, and a lot of hot stories, just for you; ranging from educative to entertaining, we promise we will keep your fingers busy ;). Take notes, women, for loving yourself and worshipping your body is not against any culture; it has been made so because it hurts the minuscule egos of some.
Stats speak that nearly 7.9 per cent of women aged between 25 and 29 masturbate two to three times a week. As per yet another survey, 92 per cent of men and 62 per cent of women masturbate in their entire life. One of the major reasons for a lower reported rate for women is their reluctance to indulge in this topic, and also the ignorance around the same, given the huge taboo that women sexuality is. You’d be surprised to know that there are innumerable women who are unaware of the wonders their bodies behold. Sure enough, their fantasies take flight, whether in the heart of a city or in the remote rural corner. However, most of them include being moony-eyed around husbands who care less about their sexual desires, and turn around to snore after ‘planting the seed’ and satiating their own cores.
Let’s ask, why is society averse to masturbation, especially of women. The answer lies in the patriarchal culture which is steeped in the very roots of orthodox cultures. As a result, if women express a mere whiff of desire or demands pleasure during sex, she is frowned upon. She is supposed to be coy, for one moan or dirty mnemonics of pleasure, and she is labelled a prostitute (a highly sexist abuse in itself).
Let your hair loose and beat around the bush, for we are taking a leaf out of Swara’s book and leaving the stigma behind. Raise that finger and love yourself, because whether you believe it or not, you are worth it. Let’s bust all the myths around women masturbation and break the taboos around it. Let’s unlearn the shame and embrace the pleasure knots that unravel our senses. It’s the month of Maysturbation, and let’s play that #Masturstroke, bold and nice. Break the hate, just masturbate.